Well there's a difference between 'snuggly' (whether it's a kiss or a hug), and jumping someone's bones.

Also there's a difference between the Chosen kiss (where the objection is the fact that she's as good as dating Spike, and people don't like to see her as jumping between them) and the space frakking (where the objection is that he's revealed himself as the Big Bad who's been fighting her for a year). Apples and oranges.

(Does anyone say that seeking comfort in Angel's arms in 'Forever' is OOC? Really? That's bizarre.)