But my ongoing engagement with the fandom is because I think the comics are interesting to think about, and they are what I most want to write about. I think it's very fine like it is and I hope you will always keep the pleasure of writing down your thoughts. My own involvement is more about the TV show , but I love to believe that we all take something valuable from the verse and that is all that matters.
Like I wrote in my post , while comics aren't my thing, I wish to all those who like them to get a satisfying reading experience, and I mean it.
And I wonder if every time I write about them it's rubbing salt in wounds. I don't know what to do with that.
There are a number of wide array of reactions/ sensibilities in fandom so I guess there's always someone bound to be hurt by what someone else is saying . This makes me sad but what can we do? We try as much as possible not to sound defensive or angry in some circumstances ,but the written word isn't always able to convey exactly what we're feeling inside.
So no , it's not rubbing salt , it's just you expressing something that is important to you when you write about the comics and your Spike's love and it should remain that way , for you and everybody.

I respect everyone's tastes , even those far away from mine.
If the B/A crowd is happy at the end , good for them. If B/S shippers( or some parts of them )are content with what they get , it will be nice too.
If the non-shippers are satisfied, the pleasure is mine as well.

I don't understand how things have escalated again , I only wish they hadn't and that people enjoy what they want to.