You and I have identical takes on all of this. Brilliant, of course!! I think it's one of those happy "accidents" that Xander's speech here is the point where he and Anya head into much more serious territory, culminating in Hell's Bells. Xander romanticized B/R just as he romanticized A/X. If the latter was a disaster, one could be forgiven for thinking that it was good that Buffy missed the helicopter.
And the Scooby's friendships with one another have always been laden with self-interest, distortions, projections, envy and a host of other less than pleasant things. They inflict a lot of damage on each other. There's plenty of good in their friendships as well. It's just that like all real human relationships we have to take the bad with the good. As Joss explores our objectification of others in Dollhouse it becomes clearer that this has always been a theme in his work -- how we can't fully escape the tendency to use others or see them in our own image and so on. One of the reasons I heart the man.
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Date: 2009-09-30 04:01 am (UTC)And the Scooby's friendships with one another have always been laden with self-interest, distortions, projections, envy and a host of other less than pleasant things. They inflict a lot of damage on each other. There's plenty of good in their friendships as well. It's just that like all real human relationships we have to take the bad with the good. As Joss explores our objectification of others in Dollhouse it becomes clearer that this has always been a theme in his work -- how we can't fully escape the tendency to use others or see them in our own image and so on. One of the reasons I heart the man.